A little bit cool...

I think I've mentioned before that conversations with 19 year old sons are often one sided, at least in this corner of the world.  Said sons will often reply in mono syllables to any given question:

"How are you today?" chirps ever-hopeful mother.

"Uh," replies son.

"How is school?  How is work?  How is your girlfriend/best friend/latest art project?" proceeds mother.

"Uh," replies son.

"OK.  Good.  Nice talking to you." concludes mother.  

I'm not complaining.  Really.  I know it is his job to separate from me at this point in his life.  I am OK with this.  Still, I find myself longing for more meaningful contact, if only once in a while.

Conversation with 24 year old daughters comes much more easily.  We have many common interests, and we both love to talk.  We share a love for reading, for movies, for music and for The Real Housewives of New Jersey.  We both appreciate the absurd and have little trouble laughing about it.  I love this part of our relationship, and am thankful that, through trial and error, kicking and screaming, we have reached this point in our lives.

But, back to said son.  A few weeks ago he asked me for a record player.  We owed him a birthday present - he's pretty tough to buy for.  His needs and wants are minimal, so instead of trying to shop for him, I usually let him pick out something that he wouldn't be able to afford himself.  This year, it was a record player.

I immediately connected with his choice.  I spent my teenage years a slave to music, and have a collection of records boxed up in the basement that were my life several years ago.  Truly.  My record collection is pretty awesome, if I do say so myself.  Coupled with the albums that Steve brought to the marriage, our records kick ass, if you don't mind the expression.

As a 16 year old, I had the best part-time job in the entire world.  I worked as a clerk in a record store.  I kept this job through college, if only as a means to buy more records at wholesale prices.  And I did keep buying.

I remember the day that I fell prey to the allure of records.

I was in the seventh grade.  I convinced my mother to buy me The Allman Brothers' Brothers and Sisters album from Wiebolt's department store.  This was my first grown-up record.  I chose it mostly because I liked the way the cover looked.

I still remember the elation I felt as I watched the clerk place the record in the now extinct, perfectly-album-sized paper bag that I would use to transport this treasure back to my house.  I almost didn't want to open it, wanting so much to just savor the moment.

But, open it I did,  slicing the shrink wrap with my fingernail to release the new record smell.

(I don't know if anyone else remembers how new records smelled, but I sure do.  There was nothing else in the world like it.  The only things that have come close are the heads of my new babies.)

Over the years, I perfected the art of new record ownership.  I never lost the reverence for that simple action of slicing open the shrink wrap.  I liked not knowing what awaited me inside the album.  Pictures of the band or some conceptual art work?  I always preferred pictures of the band, but was OK with pretty much anything.  The biggest bonus was to have lyrics on the dust jacket.  Liner notes put me over the moon.

I still remember that the very best record of all to open was the Beatles' White Album.  It had all of the above, and was a sacred part of my collection.  I bought a second copy of it when mine got so scratched that every song skipped, and the 8 x 10 glossies of John, Paul, George and Ringo got frayed and faded from being rehung so often on the walls of my teenaged room.

Anyway, I spent my teens and early twenties building my record collection until it numbered in the hundreds.  I was able to do this through my record store job.  During college, I was able to feed myself with my record collection because there was a store that gave you cash for used records, something I would do when I ran out of spending money.  My record collection was partly responsible for me meeting Steve.

"You have really cool records for a girl," was one of the ways he proclaimed his affection in our early years.

But life, as it happens, began to take precedence over record-collection-building.  I got married.  I got a job.  I had kids.  All of these things got in the way until...they stopped making records.  This was a black day in my life.

CD's and iTunes just don't work the same magic, and even though I have pretty much replicated my music collection (and then some) via these two mediums, I remain nostalgic for the vinyl experience.

So I was tickled when Trent, upon receipt of his new record player, asked if he could use some of our old albums.  I was even more tickled when I saw that he had made himself a huge stack of the things.  We talked about the merits of Talking Heads, Jimi Hendrix and the Pretenders.

I had forgotten that I had acquired an original copy of the Rolling Stones' Some Girls, before the pictures of famous actresses were removed due to some copyright snafu.  I was delighted to see it in his pile.

"Do you know about this?" I asked, holding up the cover.

"Yeah. That's probably worth some money.  Do you have any other ones like that?"  he responded.  There was reverence in his tone. 

It took me a moment to shake off the shock I felt when I realized that he had spoken actual sentences to me.  I regaled him with stories of how I would always buy the first release of an album because I worked in a record store.  He showed me some of the records he'd just purchased, and provided mini-reviews.  It seems that for audiophiles, vinyl is making a comeback. I watched the record player needle revolve around that heavenly piece of black plastic, and I got a little choked up.

Maybe we have a few things in common after all.